Tip #1 – If your divorce is contested, hire an attorney. Contested divorces are a complicated process. A divorce attorney is a professional who has ‘been there’ and ‘done that’ in divorce court time and time again. He will know how to handle each issue as it arises. With a divorce attorney by your side, you are assured that you and your children’s interests are being advocated.
The first thing you need to accept and realize is that even though you really want to save your relationship, you may not be able to do that. Be prepared mentally for any and all possible outcomes. Don’t view this as not having faith. What you’re doing is realistically looking at the situation for what it is. Not living in a fairly tale land, but accepting that it could turn out completely opposite from what you want.
Put some distance between the time of your discovery and the time you meet with a Pasadena Child Support for that first consultation. It takes time to deal emotionally with your discovery of your spouse’s unfaithfulness so that you can consider your choices. These choices may include deciding whether you want to try a reconciliation or head straight to the courthouse. Divorce, or family law, attorneys often charge non-refundable retainers (or deposits), which means if you change your mind after you hire the lawyer to begin working on your divorce so that you can try a reconciliation, you will not receive a refund of that money. And beware the attorney who tells you he or she will take your spouse to the cleaners—will make him pay—since that may not turn out to be the case.
Division of the assets. If you were married for many years you have likely accumulated many assets. Are you and your former spouse in agreement as to how to split up those assets? If there is a house, who gets the house or will it be sold? What about the car? Who is responsible for any outstanding payments on the house or car? Don’t forget about retirement assets and any other type of savings.
After you’ve located some prospective San Jose divorce attorneys how will you go about choosing one? During the interview process, be sure to ask questions and observe their behavior. A skilled divorce lawyer should meet some essential qualifications.
You will also need a list of assets. This includes any property and its value. All belongings in said properties. This is so the courts can determine the distribution of assets if the two people filing for divorce can not come up with an equitable distribution plan themselves.
Income taxes will affect most of the major financial aspects of the divorce settlement. Generally speaking, the transfer of property pursuant to a divorce is a nontaxable event. But that changes if you subsequently sell the property. At that time, you will be solely responsible for paying the tax on all of the gain (profit) earned from the time you and your spouse originally purchased it.
One of the best things you can do for your children when going through your divorce is to encourage your children to love the other parent and to not take a side in regards to the divorce. This is positive reinforcement, that they are not the cause of the divorce. This helps reinforce the trust they have in you as a parent. This is easy to say, but very hard to practice. It is in our nature to strike out at those that agrees and hurt us. Let you divorce attorney strike back for you, while you reinforce your family.